Oliver is a super duper sweet baby and generally very happy. He sleeps well most nights with very little prompting from mama and dada, and his only food sensitivities so far are dairy and gluten in my diet which gives him a rash on his face. We’re cloth diapering this go ’round and he’s finally fitting into his “one-size” pocket diapers (we are currently loving SunBaby diapers) which makes life a little easier. Breastfeeding is going well with occasional “dips” in my supply, but nothing requiring supplementing. I just drink some Mother’s Milk tea and we’re back in business again (along with lots and lots and lots of extra nursing).
Postpartum depression (which is typical for me) has been lingering more than I would like, so continued prayers for my sense of well being are appreciated. I’ve started taking St.John’s Wort along with evening primrose oil and have been slowly seeing improvement.
My desperate need for caffeinated coffee at regular intervals throughout the day is lessening. I’m taking that as a good sign that I’m headed in the right direction :).
I lost my typical 12-15lbs after having Oliver and haven’t budged a pound since : / which is probably due to my voracious appetite when nursing a baby. I can’t stop thinking about FOOD. 😛
I started tracking my basal body temperature again to give me clues to my health in general and it’s been lower than it should be, which (along with my excessive hair loss) makes me suspect my thyroid is a bit under-active. For now I am going to work on supporting it through diet, supplements, and tracking symptoms.
Other than these things I’m current wracking my brain trying to figure out how to make life continue flowing with 10 crazy wonderful kiddos. 😀 More on that later.
To see pictures of our sweet little “Ollie Wallie” who is about 3.5 months old now, check out my instagram feed in the sidebar.
Sorry about the lack of updates the last 6 weeks. We went through 4 weeks of serious illness (where everyone got sick, this hasn’t happened in quite a while so it caught me by surprise!) and I’ve spent the last 2 weeks wrapping all those little things that need doing before a mama can have a baby at home :). But now I’ve officially watched my due date come and go – something I’ve only done 2 other times out of a total of 10 pregnancies. Our oldest was born 5 days past his estimated due date (EDD) and our 9th child was born 4 days past his EDD, but everyone else has come within 5 days before their due date along with 1 being ON his due date :). I’m feeling antsy, but surprisingly doing ok. I was blessed to attend a women’s conference at our church, that I hadn’t planned on going to because it was on my due date, and the message was exactly what I needed to hear. The speaker was Margaret Ashmore and the message was trusting and resting in God’s sovereign plans and walking in humility. So here I am… trying to walk through this being “over due” patiently because it’s all in God’s plan, even if it’s not in mine.
A little update as to my pregnancy itself…
I haven’t been exercising regularly since everyone got sick – just some sporadic stretching and walks here and there. I had been exercising consistently before illness struck, so I’m hoping that ends up counting for something 🙂
My varicose veins haven’t gotten any worse, although the circulation in my left leg is still not good. After researching and talking to my care health care providers, I’m fairly confident the circulation issues primarily has to do with 2 factors. 1) The fact that I’ve been standing with my hips jutted out to one side for years (thanks to the way I hold my children), so I’ve been working on switching sides and using more arm strength rather than propping them, and 2) the pregnancy itself which comes with increased blood volume and increased internal pressures for a growing uterus.
I’ve gained 11/12 lbs at this point – 2 of those over the last two weeks. I have allowed my self a little more wiggle room these last two weeks as I don’t want to deprive the baby of much needed calories to put on weight 🙂 – that’s my story and I’m sticking to it lol.
My will power to eat really well has been dwindling slowly over the last week, but I’m continuing my pregnancy tea (1/4 cup red raspberry leaf and a 1/4 cup nettle leaf tea steeped overnight with peppermint and lemon balm leaves), my prenatal vitamins, calcium & magnesium (one of these and one of these daily), methylfolate, methyl b12, and fish oil, along with a few other herbals.
Per my midwife’s instructions, I’m drinking lots and lots of water (at least 3 quarts of just water daily) which ended up being very important as you will see….
I didn’t get to finish it because…… on April 6th at 11:38pm we welcomed our sweet 10th child Oliver William (“baby Ollie”) into the world!
He is my personal biggest baby at 7lbs 8oz and measured 21 inches long. He’s a few days old now at the writing of this – he seems to be adjusting to life on the outside amazingly well. His labor story will have to come later as I’m still tired and sore, but I didn’t want to put off sharing him with you any longer :).
5lbs of white potatoes chopped
2lbs of dried white beans (navy / great northern), soaked & cooked
4 cups chopped onions
4 cups chopped carrots
2-3 cups chopped celery
2-3 cups chopped mushrooms
4lbs “soup bones” or other meat on the bone
3 Tbsp Salt & Garlic Powder
Optional seasonings: thyme, rosemary, a bay leaf or 3
Overnight, simmer your soup bones (or other meat on the bone) in a pot or crock pot. In the morning, strain the broth into a large pot (I use a big ol’ 20 quart pot), and remove the bones and break up the meat. To your pot add all of the above ingredients and simmer for 2-3 hours.
I’ve shared how I am carefully managing my pregnancy weight gain which has lead many to ask “what do you eat?” So here it is – I have very specific foods I try to eat every day to meet all my nutritional needs.
Every day I have a smoothie. I usually use this smoothie to take all my supplements and frequently drink half of it at one time and the other half later. This is a convenient and consistent way to make sure I’m packing a lot of nutrition into one simple meal and taking my vitamins regularly :).
But the micronutrients is where this smoothie shines 🙂
The rest of the day isn’t quite as set, but I try to include all of the following things in my daily meals.
1 medium potato (primarily for potassium, but notably contains 4g of protein and 2g of iron, along with varying amounts of minerals & b-vitamins)
1 cup of legumes (with a focus on white beans, lentils, and chickpeas). When prepared properly they are an excellent source of various minerals, protein, and fiber along with a heaping helping of b-vitamins (particularly folate!)
3oz of salad greens – green leafy veggies are a great source of minerals, including calcium & iron, along with vitamin A, vitamin K1, and folate. I avoid eating too much spinach due to the very high oxalate content.
2 eggs – an obvious source of protein, b vitamins (b-12 in particular) and vitamin E in addition to vitamin K2 if the eggs come from pasture raised chickens.
3oz of meat – with a focus on naturally raised sources. I lean more towards eating pork products as they are high in selenium, zinc, and various b-vitamins.
1 oz of almonds (preferably soaked and dried to help improve bioavailability of nutrients)
1 oz (or two squares) of 80% or darker chocolate. A delicious way to get 2g of protein, 2mg of iron, and various amounts of other minerals.
Including my morning smoothie, below you can see the nutritional breakdown of eating all of those things in a day…
A couple of notes: All the daily value percentages are adjusted for pregnancy needs ;-). Also, most of the vitamin A I get in a day is the alpha and beta carotene kind and perfectly safe in large amounts. This also does not include other “incidental” foods such as coconut milk in my coffee, other foods that are contained in lunch and dinner, as well as any oil used for cooking. So all said and done, my calorie count ends up closer to 2200-2300 calories a day.
As you can see there are a few “gaps” and here is how I address them.
Vitamin D – I take 2 cod liver oil capsules (which contain a total of 500 IUs vitamin D & 5000 IUs preformed vitamin A). I also take additional vitamin D drops during the winter as I’m not getting nearly as much sun now.
Calcium – my Nutritive herbal tea contains a large amount of calcium along with other minerals, but since it’s not as measurable I take 2 capsules of calcium / magnesium daily just to be sure. With my pregnancies so close together I need to be very mindful of my mineral intake – particularly with calcium and magnesium.
Iron – that one is close enough 😉 that I’m sure my other food plus my nutritive tea intake covers it. I also get my blood tested for iron levels to be sure I’m doing well there.
Potassium & Zinc – that one is close enough as well. See my above comments about iron.
Ok so that covers the basics, but how about “HOW TO FIT IN ALL THAT FOOD??” lol. Some days it feels like so. much. food, but it’s worth it! First of all I spread it out throughout the day so I’m more or less eating a little bit every 2-3 hours. To get my salad in, if we’re not having salad for dinner I just throw whatever we’re having for lunch or dinner on top of greens.
Lunch is either leftovers or a big pot of soup with potatoes, legumes, onions, carrots, celery, chopped kale, and meat of some kind (we buy meat in bulk from Polyface Farm).
Dinner – we follow a really regular meal schedule which makes life a lot easier (budget and planning wise). But this post is long enough so I’ll share that next time. 🙂
DISCLAIMER – This post was written with all my minions running around me asking to be fed and watch movies and to be fed again. If it’s sounds discombobulated or has excessive typos, you may blame them. No time to edit or add lovely photos today! 🙂
You need a pep talk this morning. I know you’ve been up on and off all night with three separate children with three separate issues. I know when you did lay down the baby in your belly was doing summersaults and keeping you awake and uncomfortable. I know you’re tired. I know your head hurts. I know you just want to just go soak in a long bath (and I just might still do that). I just wanted to remind you…
God has got this. He knows just how weary you are in body and soul. He loves you and your children and knows you are all not feeling well. I want you to picture all of you resting peacefully in his enormous loving hands. He’s going to carry you all through this day. He will show you what really needs to be done and what can wait. He will show you how you need to love on your kids and what battles to fight. The dirt, the dust, the crud will all still be there tomorrow and guess what? Those things won’t follow you to heaven one day so they don’t really matter in the end. God’s grace will be enough for you today, in this moment, right this very second. Don’t worry about later. You don’t know what is going to happen anyway. For now, just rest in God’s loving mercy.
Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also…. Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?… Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
My nutritional goals are constantly evolving. I’m trying to carefully balance not gaining too much weight, but nourishing my body and a growing baby. This becomes even more complicated as the nutritional status of our food is definitely not what it use to be, but we are fortunate enough to have nutritional supplements when access to highly nourishing food isn’t as readily available.
I started this pregnancy about 30lbs over what I consider a good weight *for me* and since there is no time like the present to pursue better health I made a plan to carefully *not* gain weight this pregnancy, but here is the rub – I hate counting calories, so I don’t. But guess what? I still have a fairly good idea of how many calories I am eating because for a short amount of time I *did* count my calories. I used tools like myfitnesspal, or my current favorite Cronometer, to see just how many calories I was consuming on a “normal” day. Then for this pregnancy I played around with different meal and food combinations for a given day and discovered what foods and nutrients I could squeeze in my day without going over my calorie budget. This way I have a fairly good idea of how much I can eat and not gain weight, yet still hit all my nutrient goals for a day.
To know how many calories you need to eat to simply maintain your weight, use any of the helpful online tools out there. I like this one at MayoClinic.org. According to this (not counting pregnancy needs and taking into account my physical activity) I need 2250 calories to simply maintain my current weight. If you add 300 calories on top of that for pregnancy that brings my grand total up to 2550 a day to only gain pregnancy weight. Since my goal is to very carefully “lose” weight while safely nourish my growing baby (more or less trying to keep the number on the scale from moving) I need to have a calorie deficit of approximately 300 calories day. I did a lot of complicated math to come up with that number 😀 which I will happily explain if you’d like, but until then….
So every day I shoot for about 2200-2300 calories a day and when I do that my weight stays consistent from day to day. When I eat more than that of course the scale reflects that. I weight myself first thing in the morning every few days to help keep tabs on my calorie intake. If the scale starts to creep up, I try to eat a little less in the high calorie food department (read: curbing my peanut butter addiction). I also have a list of foods I try to eat each day to help meet nutritional goals I have, but that will have to be covered more in depth in another post. I need each and every calorie I have available to me to get in all the nutrients I need, so if I want to splurge it will be reflected on the scale, and I’m ok with that 🙂 It does makes splurging less tempting though.
At 30 weeks pregnant I’ve gained 9lbs so far (5 of which happened the week of Christmas & New Years, yikes!). I’m praying my motivation stays strong enough to keep up with eating well so I can finish out this pregnancy in a healthy way. So how about you? Do you have a story of minimal pregnancy weight gain? I’d love to hear it!
Your birth was a journey. It began 9 months before you ever took a breath outside my womb. While I waited for the big day of your arrival I prayed with many friends for *our* safe passage as you came into this world. I was scared of what could happen while at the same time preparing and planning for the best (and the worst). On your “due date” the contractions began. I knew these were different and it was time, but little did I know you wouldn’t be making an appearance for 4 more days! The labor pains started and stopped, getting increasingly more intense, keeping me from sleeping well. I was one tired mama my sweet boy. Your siblings hung out with your Grandma as Daddy and I tried to keep ourselves preoccupied. You see, I wouldn’t let your daddy leave my side as I knew you could come at any moment. We went for many long walks. Daddy took me out to lunch :). He also prepared lots of food so he wouldn’t have to cook dinner for a few days. I napped a lot. I got in and I got out of the birthing pool many times so the warm water could help my body relax. Wednesday morning came and after a 2 particularly strong contractions I prayed to the Lord and finally surrendered to the fact that I just really had no idea when you would show up. I was fully ready now though. I would do anything to help get you here. Then the next contraction hit and it was a monster. I called to everyone that I was going upstairs to the birth pool, I needed some comfort. I made it up the stairs and another massive contraction hit and I hit the floor on my hands and knees – there was no standing through that one. I stood up shaking – I knew that meant you were coming and SOON! Daddy ran upstairs and helped me into the pool. I told him you were coming – I’m not sure he believed me :). The next contraction made me panic just a little until Daddy reminded me to stay calm, freaking out would not help lol. In that moment I remembered he was probably just as concerned as I was because our midwife was NOT there yet and that gave me courage to be calm. I moaned so loud through the next contraction HA! I sounded so funny. I was trying with all my might not to push as I could feel you descending. I told Daddy to get behind me and to get ready to catch you, I was on my hands and knees and that was not going to change. I was so proud of your papa, he got right in position. I pushed through one contraction and your head was out. Amazingly, when the contraction ended I was in no pain whatsoever and felt a little disconcerted that you were half way out but I was in no pain! I felt the next contraction coming and told Daddy to get ready. One more breath and there you were! You were beautiful. We were safe. It was a beautiful moment of laughing and crying and breathing freely for the first time in 9 months.
You were here. We were safe. God was so good to us. 5 min. later our dear friend Amanda arrived and began laughing and crying with us (and snapping some precious photos).
About 5 minutes after, the the midwife arrived and was just as surprised as Amanda was that you got here first! All was well. We made our way out of the birth pool and were thoroughly checked out by Marilee.
Then we slept.
We’d done some hard work you and I.
You’ve been such a blessing to us from the very beginning.
I am so thankful to be your mama. As I write this I carry your little brother in my womb. I hadn’t expected to be going through this again so soon, but I am thankful for the privilege. Your birth taught me so much. Courage. Patience. Trust. Empathy. That I am not helpless. And again God reminded me that he is always with me. I pray I will make the journey safely once again. I love you dear boy.